Sorry to hear about your wife, hope all is well. I fought the Big C years ago, know all too much about it.
But Furds, I don't know much. I have a friend that raced with me for years, always ran a SBF with something that had heads that are supposed to be way too big, 4V heads maybe? This is an old dude, far older than me, loves his early Mustangs, hates Deep Stagers (ME!) we are CHEATERS and make the track shorter! I always loved to race him and beat him.

Then we would all go out to dinner afterwards.
Good friendly fun buddy, don't take any of this shit too seriously, we phuck around with each other to have fun. Life is short, and shit happens, take care of the wife then come back for some more bickering! As you can see we LOVE to bust on
@89 Fox 427, he will say Boooooo.......